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Wednesday, September 26, 2012

How to overcome the inferiority/superiority complex

In his speech to the United Nations Assembly last night, the President Obama referred to the "crude and disgusting" video on the Prophet of Islam. He also heavily talked about the civiil vs. uncivil ways to respond to those who criticize you.

As a politician he cannot talk about the root cause of the problems people have. He cannot talk about the cure of the physical or mental disorders people (who are hypersensitive to critiicism) suffer from.

What is the root cause of their problem? What is the cure?

The quick answer is "To have faith in God", for faith in God is the cure that always works for those who suffer from the so-called inferiority/superiorithy complex, for by definition faith looks to God, not men, so a faithful man takes his eyes off of peoeple, looks up to God who has made each person to be uniquely valuable, finds his own value before God and men, and thereby remains categorically immune from contracting the disease (infreior/superior complex), because those who feel inferior (or superior) to others do so because they look at people, compare themselves with others (who are all different) and therefore remain condemned to either feel infirior or superior, and cause themselves and others suffer from all sorts of ill-consequences such as broken relationships.

So here is a test for the inferiority complex (I copied from a website -

1. Sensitivity To Criticism:Although people who feel inferior “know” they have shortcomings, they do not like other people to point this out. They tend to perceive any form of criticism, regardless of how sensitively or constructively it is presented, as a personal attack.
2. Hypercritical Attitude:People who do not feel good about themselves have trouble feeling good about anyone else. They look hard for flaws and shortcomings of others to try to convince themselves that they really aren’t so bad after all. These people cannot feel intelligent, attractive, competent, etc., unless they are the most intelligent, attractive and competent person around.
3. Inappropriate Response To Flattery:This can work two ways. Some people are desperate to hear anything good about themselves and will be constantly fishing for compliments. Others may refuse to listen to anything positive about themselves because it is inconsistent with their own feelings.
4. Tendency Toward Blaming:Some people project their perceived weaknesses onto others in order to lessen the pain of feeling inferior. From here, it is only a short step to blaming others for one’s failures.
5.Feelings Of Persecution:Carried to its extreme, blaming others can extend to believing that others are actively seeking to ruin you. If a man is fired from his job, for example, it may comfort him to believe that his boss was out to get him. It allows him to avoid personal responsibility for his failure.
6. Negative Feelings About Competition:People who feel inferior like to win games and contests every bit as anyone else, but they tend to avoid such situations because deep down, they believe they cannot win. And not coming in first is clear evidence of total failure.
7. Tendency Toward Seclusiveness And Timidity:Because people with an inferiority complex believe that they are not as interesting or intelligent as others, they believe that other people will feel the same way about them. So they tend to avoid social situations, and when they are forced to be with others, they will avoid speaking up because they believe doing so will only provide an embarrassing demonstration of their dullness and stupidity.

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In reading Luke 22 one of the daily bread Bible passages, I was wondering how Jesus was able to keep himself cool, calm, and collected, keeping integrity as the Son of God, not becoming hypersensitive to those who accuse him.

This quest led me to Isaiah 50 which gives us a look at the inside of Jesus during the hours of suffering. When someone strikes you in the face what might you be thinking of your enemy? And how did Jesus react to those who struck him? (Read Luke e to John 18:22; 19:3; Luke 22:63,64; Isaiah 53:7.) And how could Jesus keep his cool?

The Prophet Isaiah answers: 

 Who among you fears the Lord and obeys the word of his servant? Let him who walks in the dark, who has no light, trust in the name of the Lord and rely on His God. (50:10)

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